'If you fall into the River of self-doubt, get someone to fish you out!'
Last week’s article centred around self-talk, confidence and steps you can take when your river of self-doubt is flowing like in the picture.
Self-talk - we all do it and frequently it’s less than helpful! We all have our inner critic and our inner champion. However which one is usually dominant in your head? We all have a river of self-doubt flowing through us. When everything is going our way, it is just a trickle and it’s easy to navigate!
This river is also full of people with a victim, cynical or spectator mindset: people who have given up on their dreams and who want you to do the same! They want to pull you in there with them! They moan, whinge, complain and drag people down with them. My response has always been to build a ‘bridge of self-belief’ to avoid all both these negative people and having to swim across such turbulent waters …….but what about if you have fallen in? What do you do then? Last week at Sydney’s What Winners Do event, one of the attendees reassured the person next to her that if she did fall in, she needn’t worry as she would fish her back out! 🎣 What a brilliant and a powerful addition to the thinking!
I talk about the importance of mentors, a winning circle and using the strength of the pack i.e. the people around you to quote from Rudyard Kipling in the Jungle Book: ‘For the strength of the pack is the wolf, and the strength of the wolf is the pack.’
When you are in the river of self-doubt, this is when you need your network and your relationships more than ever!
I absolutely loved the thinking and immediately asked Jessamy to create me a new slide (see above).
If you are in the river, message your coach/mentor, leader, colleague, a member of your winning circle and ask for help!
If you see someone in the river who needs and wants to get to the other side help them! Get fishing and pull them up and pull them out. One conversation over a quick coffee, one expression of belief, one acknowledgement that you are willing to help and/or one statement of the other person’s worth could be all it needs to help them get out of the river, dry themselves off and move forward in the direction of their goals, aspirations and dreams.
Be the difference that makes the difference! 🙏Huge thanks to Bec, Lara, Jessamy for helping me improve my thinking and ultimately my content. Always willing to listen, learn, copy and add the 10% to make a stronger impact. It’s #whatwinnersdo 🦅 👉Next article is about No77: Kai Sakakibara, an incredible young man I met at the What Winners Do event! If you have 2/3 minutes please google him.
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